Strive for Excellence
What does it mean to be a man in today’s world? What do you think a woman thinks a man should be? If you are a man, what plan do you have for your life? Does it include your family? Are you looking for your perfect mate? Do you have a plan to make your life better? Are you striving for excellence?
Dr. Wayne Dyer writes that to attract the relationship you want you need to be that yourself. If what you are looking for in a relationship with another person is an exquisite sense of love, be that yourself. He goes on to say that”You do not attract into your life what you want. You attract what you are.” So what type of man are you exactly? What are you attracting? Is this what you want or need?
Some women say they need
I myself have been on several dating sites off and on over the past several years after my divorce looking for that special someone and I have read many profiles (to many) of what a woman really is looking for from a man. I have to tell you, some of these are spot on and need to be brought to men’s attention.
Here are what some women say they need:
- I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life.
- I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don’t need a simple-minded man.
- I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don’t need to be unequally yoked…believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster.
- I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don’t need a financial burden.
- I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded.
- I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man.
- I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God.
- I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn’t taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive…he just has to be worthy.
Are You Striving for Excellence
I think this is a fantastic list for men to be striving for and discussing it with a woman they want a relationship with — many things have changed in the woman/man relationship over the years. God created man / woman and placed them in the Garden of Eden to work together. As time went on I think many of them stopped working together and woman got placed in the home and men out of the home. In the not too distant past, the world wars helped to bring women back out of the home, but now most men and woman do not understand how to work together…the rules seem to be different and most do not understand how to respect the other much less plan for growth of them both, together. That is a big problem I fear. But one that can easily be overcome, if we as men, as leaders, as examples to others, take control of our own life; which means being responsible for those in our family and create a plan of always striving for excellence; then we can show the women in our lives that plan and work together with them and have the lives we both want.
As the list above shows you, many women want a man who shows he is a man by working at becoming a better man, does the difficult things, has strong convictions, morals and values, has integrity and treats her with respect. Many women want you, the man, to show her you have a plan for excellence, a plan for your future and that you are working on it and showing progress. If you are such a man or striving to be such a man you more than likely are on the right path to attract the woman of your dreams into your life, if she is not there already. You will earn or have earned her respect and probably her love. If you continue to further develop and work that plan throughout your life, you will most likely will keep her love or make it stronger.
If you are not doing many of the things listed above, why not? What makes you think you should be made responsible for another person’s life if yours is a mess? Why should a woman make herself submissive to you, when she and probably others, see the way you truly are.
If you roll out of bed each morning, at 7:30AM and I mean roll because you are so out of shape, you certainly are not striving for excellence. If you think your female mate is supposed to keep herself in tiptop shape for you, why are you not doing the same for her? Remember, your body is a temple for God (1st Corinthians 3:16) and it’s your responsibility to keep that temple in good shape, for Him, for her and for yourself.
If you spend 2-4 hours or more watching TV shows or sports each day, you are not improving your mind in a way that will help you and your family prepare for a changing world, and it’s up to you to make sure your family is prepared. You are the leader of your family, man up.
If you have not owned up to your debt or taken responsibility working out a plan to repay it, again, you are not striving for excellence. You may have to figure out how to create more revenue streams for yourself by adding a second job or by developing a business that provides more income to pay off the debts, but this is your responsibility, own it. Yes, it may take some time, but share your plan with your mate and assure her you have a plan, and then work the plan. Not having adequate income to repay your debt is just not an acceptable answer, it’s an excuse. Don’t go there, figure it out, it’s what a man does.
If you and your family are not going to church or your wife or partner is going by herself, you are abdicating your spiritual leadership role of a man and may be losing the respect of this woman. Do you make sure to pray at meals giving thanks for the food on your table or pray with her together at night thanking the Lord for your blessings while praying for others in need? This is what a Christian man does for and with his family. He leads. He strives for excellence in everything he does.
Take a Break, But No Pity Party
Am I perfect, absolutely not; have I ever been dealt what I thought was a raw deal and felt a little to sorry for myself, unfortunately at times, yes. However I am a person who believes in striving for excellence and am on the path to being the best I can be in each area of my life, and this is a terrific feeling. Creating a plan to strive for excellence in everything you do and then doing it, is what gives you self respect and makes you a better man while growing you to your new potential. It’s your responsibility to do this, it’s what many women want you to do and it is the right thing to do. Try it; I’m sure you will agree.
Everyone does get a break from time-to-time or may need a “pass” on something they did or something that happened to them; we all can understand that. But don’t let it eat you up and certainly don’t expect a “pity party” to be held in honor of you going through something. Be a man, man up and take control of things; you will keep yourself respect and feel better. You will show others you are striving for excellence and a man of your word. You will show the woman you love that you are worthy of her love, she will admire you more, look up to you with respect and things will be much better for it.
Striving for excellence in all things is the manly thing to do. Take responsibility for yourself, be worthy to others, create your plan to strive for excellence and then get it done!
If you would like to discuss creating a plan to strive for excellence in your life, please feel free to contact me at Coach@LifeLongU.com
Gary J. Kiecker